Sorry. I don't. Eliminating the bind option is definitely something I wouldn't implement for myself.
Look at the :VLR-xrefSubcommandBindItem event and
coordinate that with :vlr-command-ended event and/or
other events to undo the actions of the previous command /subcommand. From the help files concerning the event above:
"The BIND subcommand of XREF was invoked, or a pre-existing xref is being bound. Note that the BIND subcommand is interactive and triggers multiple events."
In general, a reactor can not be used to interrupt a command in progress.
Though it may be difficult/impossible to cancel/undo the effects of the bind subcommand, it would be easy to undo the entire effects of the xref command that included a bind operation.. I wouldn't, however, want to be the drafter dominated in such a fashion though.
A polite alert reminder would be the method of choice for me. Something informative and polite but firm might help. Something like. "Continue this bind operation and I forsee pink slips in your future. >:-("
Does that help? ;-)
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